To break patterns in your life, you only need a willingness.
We all want things to change for ourselves. We want things to get better, happier, to be more fulfilling, to feel more like how we imagine them to be.
But pattern after pattern is holding the current paradigm in place. It can be sticky, like a tangle of threads that we’re trying to unknot. Have you ever tried untying tight knots? It’s a pain in the ass.
I have a better idea...
Yes, let's talk about that.
I wrote this song back in 2016, recorded it in 2017, and just rediscovered it.
I wrote it around the election. Remember that? It was SUCH a triggering time for so many.
I found quotes from survivors and merged them with my own words to create it.
I'm sharing it with you today because this is one of the primary focuses of my practice/medicine.
I help survivors to integrate, heal, and feel whole again.
There is a perfect recipe to your healing and transformation that you just need
to figure out and get right.
It’s actually more about becoming *available* to the healing that you need.
Is there some part of your healing/transformative process that you are facing that doesn’t seem to shift?
This is for those times when you feel confused, unclear, indecisive, stuck... and it revs up your anxiety.
Let's talk about what to do when you don’t know what to do, what next step to take, what direction to go, what to choose.
Those feelings do suck. They feel unshakeable, and they’re so compelling. One thought after the next that convinces you that you should freak the fuck out...
It’s a battle that you feel like you can’t win. And if you're like me, you then also may think you might screw up the beautiful unfolding of your life by not knowing what to do...
We are captivated by solving problems.
We are all taught to fix problems.
But are you in the energy of the problem or the energy of the solution?
You can only be in one, not both. Are you influencing the problem or the solution? How do you know?
You feel like this:
I shouldn’t be feeling this way.
I don’t know why I’m feeling this way because my life is good/isn’t bad.
There’s something wrong with me.
I can’t seem to feel happy.
I’m just going through the motions.
I have times I don’t feel like doing ANYTHING.
I feel so heavy.
And then you:
Go to your doctor and try antidepressants.
Hide how you’re feeling to the people you know.
Try to suppress how you’re feeling until you feel like you’ll explode.
Numb how you’re feeling with various things (TV, video games, alcohol, etc.).
Feel more and more hopeless, frustrated, confused.
Does this sound like you?
Can we talk about the missing element here?
I'm captivated by the concept of being our most "authentic" self. What does it mean? How do you "be" who you are? Shouldn't it come naturally to you?
No, not really. Not at all, actually...
Maybe that was true in the very beginning when you first got here.
... you know, before you felt the influence of others, the judgment, the rejection...
Dr. Cailin O'Hara is a passionate provider, mentor, and forever student of life here to translate her experiences into hope, wisdom and light.