Timing, Destiny, Creating Your Reality

My thoughts on timing...

I had a client recently ask me my thoughts on "timing."
Is there time? Can you really collapse time? Is there destiny? Is what you do, think, feel fated? Can you close the gap between where you are and the future you desire... make it happen more quickly? How much control do we really have?

These are the ways I currently work with and regard time and timing to create the life I want.

The 1, 2, 3, 4 of "Time"
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1) Natural Order
I believe in natural rhythms and natural order. There is always a beginning, a middle and an end to things as far as we know. This is the construct we live in: day and night, seasons of the year, birth and death, coming and going, starting and finishing. We live in this spectrum of polarities/extremes. I consider this an "operating" system. It's what we, as limitless beings, operate within in this earthly realm. It's what creates structure; it's what organizes chaos, limitlessness and potentials into matter and form. It's what has organized US as energy into matter and form.

This natural order moves us through time and space. It influences us constantly. The trick here is to feel into where you are in the natural order of things- to use it to support you in your efforts, in your evolution. We live in a state of balance and flow when we feel our way into these natural rhythms.

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2) Readiness.

As Abraham Hicks says, "You're getting ready to be ready to be ready...," meaning that your personal readiness IS your timing. I think one of the most productive and important intentions we can hold is to make ourselves ready- for what we want, for the next thing, for limitless possibilities, for change. Readiness means we are truly present to ourselves and our lives: we are aware and intentional, orienting ourselves purposefully to what we want and where we want to go. When you are ready, it will happen... and not a moment sooner. When conditions are ripe, it will occur... and never otherwise. This is ALSO the natural order here on earth- these are the laws we operate under. 

So how do you get ready? I think all of life, for me at least, is about being ready. I meditate, journal, connect with myself and with God energy every day- for hours on end sometimes... and I remind myself of it 24/7. It's how I stay present and intentional, maintaining a state of readiness for my ongoing evolution. I practice thinking positively, in possibilities, in love. I have a loving, compassionate and empowering relationship with myself. I believe in myself. I focus on what I want. I pray.  All of this is me getting ready to be ready. When I am ready for the next thing, it is mine to experience. 

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3) Listening to ourselves deeply (intuition)

You have your own timing. You have your own flow. You have your own energetics, your own frequency. Things organized around you and for you in ways unique to you. No one else knows your timing. I believe this is what we are all trying to access and understand when we study our minds, healing practices, the law of attraction, meditation, spirituality, etc. We are trying to learn who we are and how things work for us- and how to use that knowingness to create the lives we want. You have your own rhythms, and you can feel into them right now. The big issue here is that we have often lost the ability to feel them, to understand our natural intuition and way of flowing through life. We have unlearned how to listen to and trust ourselves. 

I listen to myself by staying 100% connected to me, by affirming the good in me, by believing myself even if I'm met with outside opposition. I listen to my body. I follow my intuitive impulses. I validate myself and encourage myself as often as I can. This allows our natural knowingness to become clear.

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4) The quantum field

I believe there are limitless possibilities, and it's up to us to open ourselves to them. This "opening" means that there may be much for us to first release from our realities: people, fears, mental constructs, self-limiting ideas/behaviors, etc. Basically, anything that feels like it holds you back from what you want, from anything being possible... it's gotta go. This is also where the first three things I mentioned all come together. There is a timing to when, how, and why things will unfold, change, happen, open or close for you. Yes, everything is possible, and surely, you can speed up or slow down the timing of things. But when it actually occurs to you to do ANY of that is your unique timing. 

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Putting it Together...

Let's put all of this into something practical. My client I mentioned earlier was asking me, "how do you decide that it only takes X amount of treatments for your patients" to be better/heal/etc. I had previously told her I believe we decide how long things take, including how long it will take our patients/clients to see "results." Years ago, I made the decision that I would be able to provide better results in shorter amounts of time for the people I worked with. I wanted X accomplished in Y time. And you know what? It worked.

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If we look at this more closely, you'll see it was all about my timing. 

Natural order/rhythms: I had arrived at a juncture where I felt my natural rhythms changing (and I couldn't have forced it to happen any sooner than that, trust me). I was thoroughly done with doing things the way I had been, and I felt into how I'd rather it be... aka what felt like a better rhythm for me. 

Readiness: I had been working with patients for years, getting better and better at what I did and how I did it. I was learning at a highly accelerated rate, readying myself for every new step I took. Each time I felt ready, I stepped up to a new level, a new way of doing things, becoming even more efficient, even more powerful in the healing I was able to offer. Eventually, I was ready and decided I would provide better results in shorter time frames. And so it was.

Listening to ourselves/Intuition:  So, I had arrived, I felt ready, and I had decided- there was no stopping me now. I knew it was the next thing for me, and I trusted myself. It couldn't have shifted any sooner, and it couldn't go on the way it was a moment longer. I made the changes I needed to make seemingly instantaneously ("collapsing time"), and I was immediately in that new reality of better results in shorter time frames.

Quantum: This is the "how," as far as I'm concerned... I felt into the reality where what I wanted was possible. I saw it for myself. I became it. I essentially accessed a potential from the limitless potentials that perfectly matched my desire (based on my natural rhythm, readiness and intuition). This "collapsed" the potential into matter and form and then into my present reality. And it was done.

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Keep this in mind...

I didn't have to force anything, but I DID stay as present and engaged in my life at all times as I could. I am the leader of my life. I feel into what I want constantly- where I want to go, what feels right for me, what I want to do. I practice not making excuses for why I can't have what I want, and I don't push things to move that aren't ready. This way of being, I believe, keeps us in that place of pure potential at all times- the place of synchronicities, miracles, abundance. 

This is how we "manifest" one another!

I will also add... in the example above, I ALSO then attracted patients into my world that fit the model I wanted. People came in on the brink of their breakthroughs- they were READY for their lives to shift in a matter of minutes and weeks, not months and years. So, we were an ideal match. Their natural rhythms, readiness and inner alignment matched them with me... and every session we had felt like magic.
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