Welcome to:
​Working with Difficult Emotions

This video comes from a three-day workshop recorded live during the shut-down in April 2020 due to COVID-19.

​We focused on difficult emotions such as loneliness, but do know that these processes are POWERFUL and will apply to so many times/feelings/experiences in your life. They are pillars for healing and navigating hard times. 

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Befriending Ourselves to Experience Wholeness

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It’s time to befriend ourselves, our feelings, and make room to experience the wholeness that we are.

Shaming aspects of ourselves, going numb, panicking, hiding our feelings, blaming ourselves, shutting down… these are examples of how we disconnect from ourselves and our emotions, which is the real root of alienation and loneliness.

We will explore meditative and daily practices to reconnect with ourselves, honor our emotions and accept ourselves and our lives. 
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Get started by watching the video below:
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Review + Journal Prompts

The process I've provided helps us experience wholeness because it leaves no part of us out of the equation; it embraces all things… and isn’t that what wholeness is, anyway?
  
The only approval we are ever really seeking is our own.
​It really is the soothing relief you always need but may not have any idea how to give it to yourself. It’s actually so easy. You just need to ask yourself and develop that relationship with yourself.
That's the hard part.
 
As you work with yourself in this way, you won’t be afraid of your own feelings.  You’ll become your own cheerleader, your own safety net, your own support system and savior. 

 
Home Practice
 Repeat the meditation practice- start your morning by connecting with yourself, saying hello to yourself, being a kind friend or parent to yourself. You could say, “hi there, I’m just checking, how are you today, what do you feel like you need today, how can I help you today, I want you to know I’m here for you" ... that kind of thing.

In the midst of upsetting feelings:
breathe, open your heart, tell yourself it will be ok, don’t become the story, be your best friend
 
Prompts

1. What ways have I not been friendly or compassionate toward myself? (aka what's the mean/shaming stuff you're saying?)
2. What are some should/shouldn’t’s that I tell myself – I should feel this way, shouldn’t do that. 
3. How do they make me feel?​
4. What are some ways I really like being talked to or supported? What do I want other people to do for me or tell me when I’m not feeling good/happy/etc.?
5. How can I begin offering this to myself?
6. What are my favorite qualities in a best friend/support system?
7. Do I offer these things to myself? What ways can I improve?
8. What can I start doing right now to be more compassionate toward myself and my feelings?​​​​​

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